Golden Rule

Golden Rule:
"So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them"For some reason I keep thinking about the GR and how it has backfired on me. What is this rule and does it really work.
I have always done unto others as I would want to be treated but here is how it panned out.

I was faithful and loyal to someone but that person was faithless and very very disloyal-
does it mean that if we are loyal to the other, that means we want them to be loyal to us, but there is the rub: Even if we treat others the way we want to be treated- it will not make them treat us back the same way.
The crucial thing is how can we make someone treat us the way we want to be treated. We cant do that merely by treating them the way we want them to treat us: we have to teach them what we are ok with.

When people treat us badly does this mean that they want us to treat them well or are they following the unGolden rule: treat others the opposite of the way you want them to treat you. So if they are mean, you are expected to treat them well.
In my humble opinion there are 4 kinds of people: People of the Golden Rule and People of the unGolden Rule. 
Ungolden Rule people treat you bad but want you to treat them well.
Golden Rule people treat you good and want you to treat them good.

Golden Rulees: people who treat you good to your own good
Ungolden Rulees: People who treat you bad even if you treat them good

My fate has been in all my relationships it is always a Golden Rule: Ungolden Rulee...........